累的时候告诉自己：我不能倒下，因为我没有依靠！！

Don't over-complicate things. If you hold them too tightly, they would shatter and your hands would hurt. 凡事不要想太複雜，手握的太緊，東西會碎，手會疼。

有些人在我們生命中出現, 相戀然後離開, 不是要來傷你的心

書生和某家小姐私定終生, 在他們結婚那天, 未婚妻卻嫁給了別人...癡情書生很傷心...一病不起...一個路過的僧人決定點化他, 僧人摸出一面鏡子給他看, 書生看到茫茫大海, 一名遇害的女子赤裸地躺在海灘, 有一路人路過,將衣服脫下給女尸蓋上, 不久又一人路過, 他妥善地把屍體埋了...鏡裡景物消失, 僧人解釋那具女尸是你的未婚妻的前世, 你是那個為她蓋上衣服的人, 她今生和你相戀, 只爲了還你一個情, 她最終要報答一生一世的是後來把她埋葬的那個人, 而那人就是他現在的丈夫...書生大悟, 病也好了..

" 有些人在我們生命中出現, 相戀然後離開, 不是要來傷你的心, 而是要還你前世的一個情 "

Looking for Unconditional Love

微雨打在我的脸上，像眼泪，太阳出现时就一定会干。

当你想流泪时只要抬头望着天，眼泪就流不出来了。

What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger!

You know the bed feels warmer

Sleeping here alone

You know I dream in colour

And do the things I want




You think you got the best of me

Think you've had the last laugh

Bet you think that everything good is gone

Think you left me broken down

Think that I'd come running back

Baby you don't know me, cause you're dead wrong




What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone




What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me, myself and I

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone




You heard that I was starting over with someone new

They told you I was moving on over you




You didn't think that I'd come back

I'd come back swinging

You try to break me, but you see




What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone




What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me, myself and I

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone




Thanks to you I got a new thing started

Thanks to you I'm not the broken-hearted

Thanks to you I'm finally thinking about me

You know in the end the day you left was just my beginning

In the end...




What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone

What doesn't kill you makes a fighter

Footsteps even lighter

Doesn't mean I'm over cause you're gone




[2x]

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, stronger

Just me, myself and I

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger

Stand a little taller

Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone




(When I'm alone)

The greatest

The greatest achievement is selflessness.
The greatest worth is self-mastery.
The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
The greatest precept is continual awareness.
The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
The greatest patience is humility.
The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.


- Atisha

We all have the potential to be better than we are. — H.H.The Dalai Lama

愛已消失時

突然發現愛已消失時,往往錯愕,不懂發生了什麽。

就算拼命追究,恐怕也只是徒增難堪。

這時啊,也許只好學動物自行療愈:　

深呼吸,閉目回想當初這愛來時,其實也是何等莫名,無迹可尋。

怎麽來,也就會怎麽去吧。

這樣回想後,雖然仍痛,但或能醒悟愛的本質,畢竟如此,然後惆怅放開。


——蔡康永哲理語錄 【給未知戀人的愛情短信】

This world is filled with beauty.

Allow yourself time to be nourished with the beauty of this world. Watch the sun rise, gaze at the ripples of water on the lake, listen to the songbirds, feel the breath of the breeze, glory in the colors of the sunset, feel the magic of the moon. This beauty is the air for your soul.

停一下不只是休息，也問問自己是否迷路了？

你不必非得成名不可，你只要讓父母親為你感到光榮，就已足夠。 原文網址： 父母為你感到光榮，就已足夠－PRADA惡魔史翠普

The Hardest and Toughest Job In the World!

Have you ever been through a hard time?

MY NOTEBOOK

                                      

忙。

最近很忙，有事忙才有感想，所以就赶快记录下来~ 目标是www.hellohappiness.com 想到就写，不管是英文还是华语，但至少我在前进！

女。

女人啊~ 应该学会爱自己，还是等人来爱？ 女孩啊~ 不懂得爱自己，会有人爱吗？ 女子啊~ 爱来爱去，最后忘了爱自己。。

长得漂亮是你的优势，活得漂亮才是你的本事！

Good People

I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings, even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people, too. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.

There is only one happiness in life—to love and be loved.

LOVE

Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

Sea of Love

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

靠家裡 你可能會當上公主。 靠男人 你可能當上王妃。 但靠自己 才能當上女王。

Meme Proposal | Tim * Audrey (From Vimeo)

我都懂

我不需要別人的理解，

不需要別人體諒自己敏感，

由著我固執的性子，

只是在我莫名的流下眼淚時，

只要有個肩膀在自己的身邊，

說“ 我都懂 ”，就夠了...

两张爱情便条

早晨，丈夫去上班，和妻子告别的时候，他说：“对不起，有一件事我一直瞒着你。公司最近要裁员，有三分之一的职工要下岗，今天是公布名单的日子，也许我明天就不能再上班了。”妻子心头一怔，怪不得这几天丈夫总是心事重重的样子。但她平静地对丈夫说：“路上小心点。”一如平时上班告别时的那样。

到了公司，在裁员名单的榜前，已经围了一圈人，他好不容易才挤进去。仔细看了一遍，万幸，没有自己的名字。他不放心，又看了一遍，确实没有。他喜出望外。

下班了，他迫不及待地回到家，一进门，就闻到厨房里飘出香味，几盘热气腾腾的炒菜已经端上桌。只有在节日里，妻子才会做这样丰盛的菜呀！他兴奋地跑进厨房，从背后搂住妻子的腰，问：“是不是已经知道我没有被裁掉的消息啊？”

妻子不置可否，一脸羞涩地说：“你别抱着我，还要炒菜哩！”很快，一桌丰盛的晚宴准备好了。随后，他们一起享用美味佳肴。

这时，丈夫发现，餐桌上还有一张小小的便条，上面写道：“祝贺你，老公。我相信你的能力，幸运一定会眷顾我们的。”读着这张便条，看着妻子桃花般的笑靥，丈夫的心里涌起一股暧流。

吃过晚饭，妻子正准备收拾餐桌，丈夫拦住了她，说：“让我来吧。”丈夫说着，把围裙从妻子身上解下来，一头扎进厨房里，一边哼着小曲，一边欢快地洗着碗筷。

一切整理完毕，丈夫在围裙上擦着手，他感到围裙荷包里有东西。掏出来细看，是一张纸条，上面写着：“亲爱的，千万不要因为裁员而沮丧。当一扇大门向你关闭的时候，还有九十九扇窗户为你敞开着。不管怎样，我都认为你永远是最好的。”

丈夫悄悄地收起便条，眼睛禁不住湿润了……

Gratitude

Angel - Jack Johnson

I've got an angel
She doesn't wear any wings
She wears a heart that can melt my own
She wears a smile that can make me wanna sing
She gives me presents
With her presence alone
She gives me everything I could wish for
She gives me kisses on the lips just for coming home

She could make angels
I've seen it with my own eyes
You gotta be careful when you've got good love
Cause the angels will just keep on multiplying

But you're so busy changing the world
Just one smile can change all of mine
We share the same soul

快乐的人不是没有痛苦

请记住，快乐的人不是没有痛苦，而是不会被痛苦所左右。人生难免会和痛苦不期而遇，其实痛苦并不可怕，可怕的是内心背叛自己，成为痛苦的帮凶。整理一下自己的心情，忘记那些不愉快的往事，听听音乐，看看风景，说能说的话，做可做的事，走该走的路，见想见的人。带上微笑，和快乐一起出发。

如果你不满意现在你的生活，就要不满意三，五年前你的决定；如果三，五年后你想过不一样的生活，就要从现在学习改变。

When You’re Alone

I want you to sit by yourself in your room. This is the moment you are wallowing, this is the moment you want to listen to sappy music and curl yourself up in a ball and feel all lonely. There are moments when you feel self-pitying, there are moments when you wonder how you are so young and so pissed off at everything. People piss you off. People cuddling on subways piss you off more. Instead of listening to music on your I-Pod and thinking about the time somebody kissed your forehead, I want you to look at the things you have collected over the years. There are the terrible pictures you have taken of yourself in college- the one where you were at a bar with your best friends and you make the ‘holy shit what am I doing here’ face, or on the beach where you are laughing so hard because somebody just threw sand at your crotch. The necklace you got from your grandmother is here and so are the flip flops you’ve had since seventh grade because your mom bought them for you. I want you to pick up the postcards you got and your favorite book that is creased by the sides. You have read this book so much you can finish the lines by yourself and you probably love it. Then I want you to pick up your phone and look at your text messages. The one from your roommate that asks where you are, or maybe the drunk ones late at night from all the people you couldn’t be with at the moment. Oh, look! Your favorite high school bud who tells you they miss you! I want you to pick at least five people from your phone that you can call because you are feeling bad. Don’t call them, just know you can.

I want you to look at yourself in the mirror. There is a scar on your chin from the time you did something really fucking stupid with some really fucking great people. There is the face that you have grown from a little shitting baby to the person you are now. I want you to make the lamest face you can in the mirror, I want you to remember all the things you like about yourself. I want you to laugh at it. I want you to stick your butt out at the mirror and smile.

Then you put on a song that reminds you of summer, or of driving in a car. Then you put on the song that you remember listening to when somebody was in love with you. I want you to think of the best memories you have had, and simply appreciate how you have had them. How you have felt something so big for somebody it made you nauseous and when they left, the best people in the world listened to you when you cried about it. You would feel that again, you think. You just might, you think. Refuse love being the end-it-all of your life. It happens and it doesn’t, and it usually happens again (which is what is so great about it.) Then I want you to cough or scream or raise your arms and simply remember how you are not alone. How you are here and you are here and that is where you are. And then I want you to think of the worst moments, the ones that made you feel shell-like and how you got over them. How you have the ability to get over shit because you are a person and people go through bad things and you are still pretty okay. How you can still laugh and give high fives and go to bars and not get how people function the way they do.

Then you realize how many more days you will feel alone. And how you sometimes crave figuring yourself out more than other things. And how many times going out or meeting certain people will make you feel like you don’t understand humans or how much you love them. Then you remember all your friends, and how much you will laugh at all the douchebags you have dated, and all the mistakes you have made, and how one of these things will always outweigh the others. I want you to allow yourself the biggest kind of optimism you can muster for the future moments of your tiny life. And I want you to sit by yourself and I want you to fucking enjoy it. Pick your nails. Eat a slab of cheese. Savor it.

Then I want you to not feel so fucking alone. You are not.

29 year old woman hears her own voice for the first time with the aid of...

Joke

A man sat in the audience and cracked a joke.
Everybody laughs like crazy.
After a moment, he cracked the same joke again.
This time, less people laughed.
He cracked the same joke again and again.
When there is no laughther in the crowd,
He smiled and said:

You can't laugh at the same joke again & again,
but why do you keep crying over the same thing over and over again?

Husband & Wife

男孩: “ Husband 第二个字母是 I 、 Wife 第二个字母是 U 、 是不是? ”


女孩: “ 笨蛋!!! Husband 是 U !!! Wife 是 I 啦!!! ”


男孩: “ 这可是你说的噢!!! Husband 是 I 、 Wife 是 U 喔!!! ”


女孩: “ 笨蛋!!! 到底要我说多少遍啊!!! Husband 是 U !!! Wife 是 I !!! Husband 是 U !!! Wife 是 I !!! ”

女人要有让自己幸福的能力。

我见到明依是在好友的聚会上，一个35岁的女人，中等姿色，学歷也不高，却嫁了个气宇轩昂的好老公，他据说是硕士，后来做“傢俱生意”发了家，结婚10 年，有一个粉雕玉鐲的小女儿，好友说完后半妒半羡地感叹，嫁到这麼好的男人，明依真幸福，我笑著不说话，想来她的“故事”不会这麼简单..

幸福能力一：会做菜，会煲汤，会踏实过日子

明依嫁给老公的时候，他还是大学里年轻的讲师，站在讲臺上激情飞扬地大谈犬儒主义和叔本华，台下的女生们多数是冲著英俊老师来的，明依全身心的投入和迷恋这份感情，那时候她当然不会去考虑臺上气质非凡的男人名下只有一间20平米的筒子楼宿舍。

婚后的现状虽然不尽如人意，但如胶似漆的爱情可以弥补一切。
小俩口一起在公共用水间洗衣服，一人一头拧床单；在烟薰火燎的楼道里做饭，饭后老公陪著她边洗碗边聊天； 週末手拉手去看场电影或是回婆家吃顿饭。

明依觉得小日子虽然清贫，但一样觉得幸福甜蜜，她把眼光从简陋的家，朴素的衣裳，自己光秃秃的脖子手指上移开，每月精打细算的捂著手中不多的钱把日子过好，明依做得一手好菜，老公最爱喝她熬的汤，排骨燉莲藕，鯽鱼萝卜丝，芋头娃娃菜.. 每次喝的肚儿圆圆才放下碗。看到老公简单满足的微笑，明依觉得，这就是幸福。

幸福能力二： 对婚姻别期望太高，少抱怨，少纠结於小事

怀上孩子的时候，老公的事业刚起步，天天周旋於客户和朋友间，请客吃饭，陪酒，陪玩，每晚不到深更半夜回不了家。

明依非常难过，面前的男人虽然还是熟悉的面孔，却好像完全换了一个灵魂。
他没时间对著大肚子的老婆嘘寒问暖，没精力回应老婆的温存关切，在生活的残酷考验下，他还原了男人爱事业不爱美人的本质，简直就是一个工作狂。

明依觉得自己的温柔克己完全白费了，眼前的男人已经不是当初自己深爱的那一个，再勉强下去还有什麼意义？

定居美国的大姐回来看她，明依哭著告诉她：老公给不了我想要的幸福，我想离婚.. 大姐缄默，第二天给她带来一本美国专栏女作家的畅销小集子，里面有一句话让明依有所触动：

“有一种女人，不管她嫁的是建筑工人还是国会议员，她都有能力让自己过得幸福..”

没错，女人的幸福，为什麼要靠男人给呢？
每个女人，都应该有让自己，让家庭幸福的能力..

大著肚子的明依向父母求援，请妈妈过来帮忙买菜做饭，照顾这个自己无力兼顾的小家。她强迫自己不去想烦心的事情，每天吃好睡好，安心养胎；她不再等老公夜归，不再像以前那样每天缠著他问长问短，不再拿鸡毛蒜皮的小事去烦他；在他偶尔有空的时间里让他搀著自己散步，彼此取笑著对方为孩子取名字。

也怪了，一天天平静安稳地过去，原本觉得天昏暗地的生活，渐渐变得阳光灿烂起来。女儿快3岁了，他们搬了新家。钱都花在房款上了，明依雇了个油漆匠把墙一刷，购置了简单的傢俱，就这样凑合著先搬进去了。

老公每天回家都能看到一点点新的变化：
客 厅里别致的灯罩是用硬纸壳蒙上米色暗红碎花图案的棉布做的；自己到海南出差带回来的椰子，吃剩的硬壳被巧妙改造成了造型可爱的小猪扑满；捲筒纸用完了，明 依给简芯细緻地裹上了一层米白色亚麻细布，教女儿用蜡笔涂鸦，画出五彩的虹，绿的树，蓝色的河流，金色的太阳公公，这样一个DIY小笔筒摆在书桌上，做爸 爸的每次看到心里都暖洋洋的。

一个原本平凡的空间在明依手里渐渐改头换面，一天比一天丰富，一天比一天有情趣。

幸福能力三： 培养自己的兴趣爱好，照顾好自己在前，不冷落家庭在后

汤妮的出现差点儿击碎了明依的幸福梦想。
她是老公生意上的重要合伙人之一，年轻，家境富裕，有生意头脑和管理能力，带著一种咄咄逼人的美和气势。汤妮明显地向老公老公表示好感，根本不在乎他的已婚身份，男人到了这种地步，不免有些心猿意马，曖昧不明。

很多人都来向明依告密，有的是打抱不平，有的纯粹为了看热闹。
明依却还是和以前一样，看自己的书，种自己的花花草草，照顾刚上小学的女儿。
在老公回家的时候，给他送上舒服的拖鞋；在他起床洗漱的时候，提前给他挤好牙膏。

她对烹调的兴趣越发浓厚，时不时来些新奇的花样。比如把香蕉切成小块，浇上优酪乳，然后裹上全麦饼乾屑；去凤凰旅游的时候学会了用蒜叶和新鲜芫菜加干辣椒熗炒，跟婆婆学会了做四川泡菜。

种种小创意让在外面吃惯了大鱼大肉的老公回到家来就会忍不住多添一碗饭，赞一句，还是家里的菜好吃。

明依把週末的时间精心策划起来，老公有空的时候，带上孩子，开车到附近的农家乐，踏青，看红叶，老公没空陪她，她就自己带著女儿去儿童乐园，或是看最新上映的动画大片。每次娘俩儿都开心的手牵手回家，女儿欢声笑语，明依红光满面。

老公终日担心，如果明依提出那个难堪的问题，他不知道该如何回答。
但明依开开心心地过自己的日子，从来不多问一句。

当然明依也有变化：
她恢復了几分婚前活泼可爱的样子，穿衣打扮越发精緻；她参加了瑜伽课，学打网球；她组织姐妹旅行团去尼泊尔，回来容光焕发，给女儿带回一条手工绣花的小裙子，送老公一个乌木镶银的烟灰缸；她甚至开始学习英文，居然可以磕磕巴巴地和美国网友聊天！

这个跟了自己10年的女人身上原来还有那麼多自己不瞭解的特质和能量，这一切都让他感觉既陌生又熟悉，并深深为之吸引..

汤妮的事情居然就这麼慢慢地淡了，没了，
女友去看明依，崇拜无比地追问她处理方式..

明依笑说，见怪不怪，其怪自败..

以前我老觉得 嫁个好老公就能幸福，
现在看起来，女人的幸福不是靠男人给的..

女人要有让自己幸福的能力。
热爱生活，照顾好家庭，不冷落自己，这才是女人真正的幸福。
这话有道理，一个家庭幸不幸福，80%以上取决於女主人。

有能力让自己幸福，有能力给男人幸福，才是聪明的好女人..

有时你以为你离不开的爱情， 在你离开后你才发现原来那并不是爱情。

Pray for miracles

You pray for rain, you gotta deal with the mud too. That's a part of it.

Everything will be okay in the end.If it's not okay, it is not the end.

And one day we will look back

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment help us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments – but all of this is transitory it leaves no permanent mark. And one day we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.

-- ‘By the river Piedra I sat down and wept’ by Paulo Coelho

Because you listened to

If you end up with a boring miserable life

because you listened to

your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest,

or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit,

then you deserve it.

-- Frank Zappa

You Hate Your Life
While Some People
Dream of Having life like yours

It's all like French vanilla ice-cream, the first taste is a 100%, by the time you're down to the sixth taste, it is gone.

I’m bored’

‘I’m bored’ is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say ‘I’m bored.’

-- Louis C.K., from season 2, episode 5 of Louie. Worth reminding oneself of.

爸爸&兒子

爸爸：兒子你覺得爸爸壯嗎？
兒子：嗯。
爸爸：你覺得少林功夫厲害嗎？
兒子：厲害。
爸爸：如果我剃成光頭，練少林功夫好嗎？
兒子拍手：太好了。
第二天，兒子看到光頭的爸爸，
兒子：爸爸加油，一定要練成高手。
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其實那天，是爸爸化療的前一天，爸爸用特有的方式，教會了兒子樂觀和勇敢

Balance

"We must all hang together or we will all hang separately." Benjamin Franklin

Bag of Tools

Isn't it strange how princes and kings,
and clowns that caper in sawdust rings,
and common people, like you and me,
are builders for eternity?

Each is given a list of rules;
a shapeless mass; a bag of tools.
And each must fashion, ere life is flown,
A stumbling block, or a Stepping-Stone.

-RL Sharpe

Each of us are given a bag of tools to do with what we wish. Some can't seem to do anything with a whole workshop full of tools, yet others can perform miracles with one spanner.

Whatever these talents may be, the sum of them are unique to you. And how you put these talents to use are up to you. You build a path to a better tomorrow. Or you can build a wall around yourself.

We've been given all the tools we need. It may not be the same as your neighbours'. It might not be the tools you wanted. But it is yours. You can complain and do nothing. Or you start to build something amazing. Show us what can be do with that set of tools (or despite of it).

No matter your station at birth or the life you've had, we are all builders of a sort. What you choose to build today will not only impact those around you now, but also the generations of tomorrow. So put some conscious effort into building something positive that will last for ages. What will you do with the tools in the bag that you were given?

In the end, the only thing you own is your story. I’m just trying to live a good one - Drover

Australia/Movie

A Little Bit Wonderful Every Day

Being stronger makes you beautiful.